vows

10 Dec

wedding

[We wanted to share what was read at our wedding. So many people in attendance commented on how much they enjoyed it, and we think others will enjoy reading these words as well. As you may notice, our friend who officiated drew much inspiration from what we have done so far with Love is a Radical Act.]

Friends, family and community, if you would take your seats, make sure your cell phones are turned off and take a minute to really sink into this moment.

Be here and nowhere else–this is the only moment that matters, this present, this, right now.

Please allow yourself to feel deeply the love that is here today with us. If you want to laugh, please laugh out loud, if you feel the need to cry let the tears come, and if you want to applaud please do so with spirit.

Feel free to do what ever you need today to break the old rules of weddings. For we are breaking tradition here today. And we are, together, creating the wedding of Kelly and Sam.

*Processional*

“Love is a radical act. Taking the time to actually love someone, to truly value who they are rather than force them to be someone else, is a radical act. To value acts of love more than things is a radical act. It goes against what we are taught by society.”

Love is a radical act…true and real love shakes us to our very roots and changes our lives and our world in miraculous and incredible ways.

Today we come together to celebrate such a true, real and radical love, as we share in the wedding celebration of Kelly and Sam. A wedding that, in the old, traditional world of just last month could not have happened because it was unlawful.

But now, thanks to Kelly and Sam and thousands of other people– gay, straight, black, white, married, single–who fought for marriage equality in the courts, in the streets, and at the ballot box, gay people can now embrace all the protections, promises and problems that we straight people have always taken for granted. I’m excited to live in a time when marriage equality has become the law in our fine state. And as Washington goes…soon so goes the world!

Kelly and Sam are you ready to get married? (YES!)

Please join hands as Jenney reads her poem that your love inspired.

*Jenney reads*

Please join both hands and face each other:

Kelly, do you promise Sam to be her wife and partner in all senses of the word? To be loving, kind, dependable, supportive, fun, understanding and unconditionally accepting of who she really is?

(Kelly: I do)

Sam, do you promise Kelly to be her wife and partner in all senses of the word? To be loving, kind, dependable, supportive, fun, understanding and unconditionally accepting of who she really is?

(Sam: I do)

By your words it is made real. Through your pledge of marriage today, you make these promises, willing that they are just and true and lifelong.

Here are the rings that are an outward symbol of your inner commitment to each other. We choose rings because they symbolize a complete circle, never ending, just as your love will never end. Your rings were specially created of the platinum given to you by Jan, Sam’s mother. The red line that encircles them is a reminder of the love that entwines your hearts.

Kelly put this ring on Sam’s finger and repeat after me.
“I Kelly, take you, Sam, to be my wife.”

Sam put this ring on Kelly’s finger and repeat after me.
“I Sam take you Kelly to be my wife.”

Now that you have complicated your union with government, we have some paperwork. Let’s sign that marriage license.

*Signing of the marriage license*

Creating a loving marriage is a choice we make in every moment, of each and every day, to open our hearts more fully to love.

To connect to our partner with body, mind, heart and soul.

To realize that our differences make us stronger and more flexible to weather life’s storms and celebrate life’s gifts.

To choose to dig down deep to find the tiny sprouts and sparks of creation, to conceive together the supports we need to grow.

Marriage is facing the critic across the breakfast table, and reminding yourself that the challenges between you are creating a deeper commitment.

Creating a marriage is a fine piece of art which can only be made real if you both get your hands dirty.

Marriage is a shared bond with a greater community of souls.

It is continuing to open our hearts, which expands everyone’s capacity to grow.

Marriage is the completion of the circle of love, that leads you forward, again and again, to recreate your selves and the universe, every day, in every moment.

Marriage is a radical act that moves us and shakes us until our egos lie shattered in pieces and our hearts are free to soar together.

Your marriage is your greatest work of art and it requires the courage of a warrior, the curiosity of a child, the compassion of a saint, and the gratitude of a beggar.

By your exchange of promises today, the giving and receiving of rings, and them governmental papers, you have become wives for life.

With the power given me by the creative spirit, I do proclaim you lawfully married.

You may now kiss your wife.

Friends, family and community I present to you the happy couple–Kelly and Sam.

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One Response to “vows”

  1. BJD December 11, 2012 at 7:32 am #

    I love you both and I’m so truly happy for you!

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